Dads Brutal Admission That His Blood Starts To Boil Any Time He Has To Spend Time With His Kids Sparks Outrage

A dad’s brutally honest admission that his ‘blood starts to boil’ any time he has to spend time with his kids has sparked fierce outrage online.

Justin Murphy, an author and former professor, recently took to X (formerly Twitter) to discuss the ‘confusing’ feelings he has about fatherhood.

In a shockingly open message, Murphy admitted that he ‘doesn’t like being around’ his kids for ‘very long.’

He boldly stated that he ‘does not enjoy’ being a dad and feels ‘little delight’ when he plays with his children, as he asked his followers: ‘Am I just a monster?’

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‘It’s been four years since I became a father and I’m beginning to fear for my soul,’ he began in the lengthy post.

‘The truth is I just don’t like being around kids for very long. Historically, this is not uncommon among fathers, but today it feels almost illegal. It’s causing me a lot of confusion and anguish.’

Murphy explained that the ‘ideal amount of time’ he wants to spend playing with his kids is 70 to 140 minutes a week, or two ten-minute sessions per day.

‘My feelings of love toward them are perfectly strong, but if I have to watch them or entertain them for than about ten minutes my blood starts to boil,’ he continued.

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‘I just want to be working, or accomplishing something. I try to be grateful, but it doesn’t work.’

He then revealed that earlier that day his four-year-old son asked him if they could go outside and play catch together.

‘I was drinking coffee, still waking up, so I didn’t really feel like it, but at this age his desire to play is insatiable,’ Murphy wrote.

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‘He begged and begged, so I conceded, and with a smile. I have no problem being a kind and loving father, the problem is only that I do not enjoy it.

‘It’s not that I’m trying to maximize my personal pleasure; it just seems wrong that I experience so little delight when my dad friends all claim to experience so much.

‘Playing catch with your son is supposed to be an iconic, peak experience. Yet for every single minute, on the inside, I just don’t want to be there. I want to be drinking my coffee in peace.’

He said he felt ‘guilty, ungrateful and ashamed’ over his feelings, and asked if anyone else was in a similar situation.

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‘I know that when he is a teenager, I’ll long to have these days back,’ Murphy added.

‘I have all of this perspective rationally, and I’ve been very patient and steadfast trying to digest it, but nothing fixes me emotionally.

‘Am I a terrible person? Or is my feeling within a certain range of historically normal and it’s modern parenting norms that are off?’ he concluded.

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‘Whether it’s my fault or not, I don’t even care, I just want to figure this out. Something is wrong and I no longer have the excuse of being new to this.’

The post got over 18.7 million views and resulted in Murphy facing immense backlash as hoards of users rushed to the replies to share their thoughts.

‘Yes you’re a monster,’ one person replied.

‘It makes his blood boil because he merely sees his child as prop for this own gain,’ scathed another.

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‘His post uses his son’s disappointment to gain sympathy, not for his son, but for himself. The idea that a child has needs outside of his own is completely foreign to a soulless manipulator.’

’70-140 minutes PER WEEK? Do you keep an Excel spreadsheet? The fact that you have even thought about this down to a specific range is diabolical,’ someone else penned. ‘It took you at least 20 minutes to write the tweet.’

‘Men will unironically have the most unhinged, narcissistic, sociopathic takes and then earnestly ask, “Am I a monster?” Like um… YES YOU ARE,’ read a fourth post.

‘As a new father you’ve given me inspiration, to never end up like you. Nothing in my life matters than my daughter,’ said a fifth.

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‘I cherish the stage she’s in now and look forward to when I can play games with her. For your kid’s sake I hope you change.’

‘You are not only a terrible person, but a failure as a father, and a weak characterless man,’ slammed a different user.

Others, however, came to his defense and shared advice.

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‘You might enjoy your time with him if you brought him into your world instead of only letting him pull you into his,’ one person suggested.

‘Can be tough when they’re very young, but try sharing and teaching him about your hobbies and interests, and do that together.’

‘I can relate to some extent to this post. I don’t enjoy playing with kids in the ways kids enjoy playing – I don’t like pretending to drink tea, I don’t want to play dumb card games and pretend to lose, I don’t enjoy studying boring objects or pictures like they do, I don’t enjoy playing catch with people who can’t even catch,’ shared another.

‘So when my kids wanted to do something with me, I would redirect to things we would both enjoy .’

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‘Dunking on a struggling parent says about the dunker than the parent,’ wrote a different defender.

‘I think this is totally normal and it is probably healthy for your children to learn some boundaries,’ chimed in someone else.

‘At the same time you do need to play with them from time to time. But if you take care of yourself first, you will find it easier to enjoy the time you spend with them.’